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PDAs Not a Problem for High Schools

Students are following policies limiting in-school affection to hand-holding and hugs.

 

Everyone remembers the couples who were always together at break times, lunch and before and after school. The ones who were caught kissing in corners, and who walked the halls with their hands in each others' pockets.

It seemed someone was always pushing the limits of acceptable public displays of affection. With Valentine's Day this week, Patch checked in to see what the prevailing trends are in some area high schools. 

The policies are fairly consistent across districts, with hand-holding and hugging allowed—but officials frowning upon much more than that.

Greendale High School's policy is that students "shall not" engage in physical displays of affection inappropriate for a public setting. School personnel use their "professional judgment" to determine the inappropriateness of students' actions, and if students go too far, they could be disciplined—with consequences up to and including suspension. 

Muskego allows hand-holding, and outlines disciplinary options from verbal warnings to expulsion, depending on the severity of the misbehavior. The handbook doesn't specifically list acts that could get students in trouble, except to say indecent exposure is grounds for immediate suspension. 

In Racine, the district prohibits disruptive, distracting, inappropriate or indecent behavior, including "inappropriate and/or sexually explicit dancing." The people Patch talked to, representing the district's three large high schools, said they don't see students' behavior going beyond what is acceptable. 

At Washington Park High School, Activities Director Jeff Miller said holding hands and a "quick kiss at the door when they walk to class" is fine. He said things have improved at the school over the past five years.

"It was really bad in the mid-2000s, but like sagging pants, seems to be on a downward trend," Miller said. "It's just not as bad now for whatever reason. PDA and behavior overall seems to be trending back to the appropriate end of the spectrum."

Case High School Directing Principal Jeff Eben said the situation here is different from California, where hallways are outdoors and all the blooming flowers seem to invite and encourage overt displays of affection. PDAs are hardly apparent in the hallways of Case, he said, and he has never had a student in his office for "going too far" in the hallways.

Horlick High School senior Rina Rebecchi said the policy against PDAs is pretty clear at school, where hand-holding and hugging is allowed, but "kissing is a little excessive." But at the dances, things get a little more heated.

"(The dance policy) isn't very effective," she said. "They allow people to practically fornicate on the dance floor."

She said the policies don't really seem to impact what students will do. "If people really want to do something, they'll be more sneaky and get away with it."

Whitnall High School's formal rules prohibit "excessive" displays of affection in the halls or on school grounds, and the school defines excessive as "anything beyond hand-holding or a kiss on the cheek," according to Whitnall High School Principal Anthony Brazouski.

But it isn't typically a problem.

"In all honesty, our students have been very respectful of this particular rule, and I have witnessed very little 'excessive affection.'"

When he has seen students whose behavior has  bordered on their expectations, he's ready. 

"I have simply asked them to take it easy and head off to class," he said. "Students are very responsive and respectful. Two of my favorite lines are 'If you really love each other, then you wouldn't let the other be late for class,' or 'Kissing is cliche, but a super secret handshake is way more original.'"

Related Topics: Racine Prom 2012, Valentine 2012, and Valentine's Day 2012

Matt

9:14 pm on Monday, February 13, 2012

Yea maybe something changed in the last 2.5 years but when I was in high school at Muskego no one listened to these rules. People were kissing and making out, all around, just normally in the places teachers don't often patrol. Teens are sacks of raging hormones, trying to stop us from kissing in high school seems like it would be easier to expel most of the people. Sorry parents im sure you dont wanna hear this at all.

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James R Hoffa

1:17 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

@Matt -

Try a cold shower or even a little something us 'big boys' like to call 'self control' :-)

Donna L Cosimano

7:41 am on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

I had to read the article almost to the end to find out that PDA meant Public Displays of Affection..... not Personal Data Assistant {the fore-runner of the Smart phone}.

Anyhow, I'd much rather hear of PDAs than the fights - down to Murders - in MPS!

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Mark Schaaf

9:27 am on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Never really seemed to be a problem for me in high school, for some strange reason.

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David Cotey

10:53 am on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

That's funny stuff right there, Mark. Unfortunately, I too was never considered a PDA expert in high school.

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James R Hoffa

1:15 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

@Mark and David -

Whatever that "strange reason" was, it affected me too!

Do you think it could have been something in the water :-)

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Denise Lockwood

12:18 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

When I covered West Allis, we did a story on their prom and the grinding issue. The principal told me the key is to have a good DJ. When things had gotten a little too hot and heavy, he'd play a fast/really mood changing song like the chicken dance. After one or two times, the kids got the picture and stopped. I thought it was a really creative solution. I talked with the DJ and he said he gets really offended when the kids basically ruined the evening so he decided to take control of the dance floor so that the parents didn't have to continue being mortified. After writing that story, I quite frankly wanted to ban my daughter from going to all dances until she was 32.
Another story I did portrayed quite the opposite -- same school district -- at West Milwaukee Middle School they held ballroom dancing lessons to a. teach kids to treat the opposite sex with respect b. engage them in a more positive way to interact c. keep 'em busy after school. Was a great program... could really see RUSD doing something like that...

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Cheryl Sanders

10:39 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

That is a GREAT idea... ballroom dancing lessons. (Of course the DJ's will have to add some fox-trots and waltzes to their line-ups)!

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Denise Lockwood

10:58 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Actually the PTA hired a ballroom dancing instructor. It was really interesting watching the kids. West Milwaukee has a pretty high poverty rate and a lot of racial diversity. I think it really engaged the kids on a lot of different levels. The teacher said the kids not only treated each other differently because they were focused on socializing, but they developed a mutual respect towards one another that carried over into the classroom. It also modeled more appropriate behavior.

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C. Sanders

9:19 pm on Thursday, February 16, 2012

Nothing like a good chicken dance to calm the hormones.

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Cheryl Sanders

9:49 pm on Thursday, February 16, 2012

Disclaimer: Whomever "C. Sanders" is, I take no responsibility for his/her comments. Although personally I have no problem with the chicken dance either.

James R Hoffa

1:11 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

"They allow people to practically fornicate on the dance floor."

Wow! We didn't have any kind special program and most of our dances were pretty much like the one depicted in 'Napoleon Dynamite' (2004)! Then again, I was usually always DJ'ing instead of actually dancing at the dances, so maybe I didn't see what was going on.

Speaking of DJ'ing, here's an interesting but true story.

So, I was DJ'ing this high school dance back in early '99 when I decided to play 'Blue (Da Ba Dee)' by Eiffel 65. I used to do a specialty european electronica mix show on our local fm radio station that aired every Friday night from 9pm to 1am and would receive promo copies of stuff from the European based record companies long before a US label would pick distribution rights here in the states, so this was probably a good 6-7 months before the song premiered on any mainstream commercial radio stations or Mtv. Anyway, I was getting so many complaints from dancers that I had to pull the song before it was even finished.

Fast forward 6 months. I'm back at the same high school DJ'ing another dance with mostly the same kids. By this time, Milwaukee top 40 stations had started playing 'Blue' in heavy rotation. I literally had so many requests for the song that I ended up playing it 3 separate times over the course of the night!

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James R Hoffa

1:12 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

The lemming mentality - when they heard the song from me for the first time, they hated it, but when all of sudden it became top 40 material, they couldn't get enough of it. Go figure - I still can't get over it!

Shortly after that experience, I stopped DJ'ing high school dances all together.

Cheryl Sanders

5:36 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Love the lines from Whitnall Principal Brazouski - way to get the point across without sounding like an old fuddy-duddy!

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Sandy

9:06 pm on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

"In Racine, the district prohibits disruptive, distracting, inappropriate or indecent behavior"...while this may be curbing PDA's in our schools (most find other places/times to engage in it) it sure is not doing anything to curb the filth that comes out of their mouths. Get that under control and I will be impressed. Then again since many teachers talk just as raunchy I guess that won't be happening any time soon.

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Jan Getz

11:55 pm on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

What's with the teacher-bashing? It's been "open-season" on that group of people long enough now!

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Sandy

8:50 pm on Thursday, February 16, 2012

Not bashing teachers, expressing disappointment that there is no respect in the classroom or schools when it comes to language. You want to teach kids respect for others by not displaying PDA's but there is no talk about other things that are just as disrespectful and being done frequently by the teachers themselves. They want you to hold them to high standards and be happy to pay their salaries but some give no respect to the students or parents by cleaning up their mouths, caring about their classroom and actually being concerned when a student is failing. I am talking from personal experience here. If they don't want to be exposed, don't give anyone a reason to.

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